The Male Line:
My father, my grandfather, and I...
You can neither see the wound on your back
Nor cut your back away.
Unless you have a mirror,
Your wound, like your shadow,
Follows you.
The father is the second most important person in our lives. Our mother gives us life; she is usually the one who supports us. The father, however, is not merely a source of support; he is often the one who navigates more difficult experiences. In other words, the mother represents life, while the father represents the world—and the world is not always supportive.
For many of us—especially in this region, where there is a high number of angry women—welcoming our fathers into our hearts with a resounding "yes" has been quite a challenge. I have observed that many of the women I work with feel sorrow and pity for their mothers' fates due to their fathers' actions. Furthermore, they blame their fathers for neglecting them and their mothers in favor of their families of origin (the families into which they were born), to whom they were deeply attached and whom they valued more highly. Often trapped in a triangle of fear and anger involving mother, father, and child, these women had sacrificed their deep need for their fathers out of love for their mothers.
The "Father, Grandfather, and Me" workshop is designed to lift you out of the triangle formed by mother, father, and the child caught between them, moving you to a place where you can open your heart to both parents with peace. This transformation profoundly impacts one's ability to cope with life's hardships and the world's challenges, find greater satisfaction in work, feel stronger and more grounded, and build a happy, fulfilling relationship.
In the workshop, we examine not only our relationships with our parents but also the lineage of the past—looking at our paternal grandfathers and their fathers.
CONTENT:
How is trauma transmitted?
What is the masculine lineage?
Why is it important?
Which areas of life is it connected to?
Concepts of conscience and guilt according to Family Constellation,
The impact of our relationships with our fathers and grandfathers—and of their lives—on our own, and how what has been passed down to us is reflected in our lives: our relationship with our partner, our work, and the obstacles we cannot overcome in the flow of life,
Practical exercises and two main sessions.
Our father represents half of our existence in the womb; he is the source of the sperm that fertilized the egg. He remains a part of our being from the moment we arrive in this world until the moment we leave it. How, then, can a woman who does not love her father open herself up to a man? How can she love him? Where can a man who does not love his father find his roots?
Mira Şeniz Erten
